We all
have pet peeves. And the older we get,
the more of them we have. My four kids
can tell you that my absolute, Number One, top pet peeve (and I’m hoping yours
is not redundancy) is when people end their sentences with the word “at.” Whenever someone commits this grammar crime,
my kids’ heads whip around to see if I am visibly wincing or able to conceal my
pain. It’s usually a combination of
both.
We’ve
all heard it. Let me see where he’s
at. Where’s your car at? What time will you be there at? Where is your mom at?
And if ever they cart me away to the funny
farm, and people ask why, you can tell them I was pushed over the brink by a
mountain of ats, piling up and pushing me to the edge, until finally I fell
down the cliff into the Sea of Insanity. That’s where I will be at.
This isn’t a picky rule,
like not ending your sentences with a preposition and causing generations of pedantic
people to say, “up with which we cannot put.”
It’s a rule that makes sense. When
you say “where IS” then you don’t also need AT. When a
clerk says, “Where is it at?” it takes Herculean restraint for me not to say, “You
mean ‘where is it’.” But kindness trumps
rudeness, so I politely refrain from correcting people I did not give birth
to. Or, for those of you even more
afflicted than I am, people to whom I did
not give birth.
The other pet peeve I shall
share today is one most people have never thought about, and, possibly, might
ruin the driving experience for you forevermore. So stop reading now if this worries you. No?
Okay, then I’ll tell you. It’s license plate frames that say “Alumni of” some
university.
Now,
what’s wrong with pride in your alma mater?
Nothing. The problem is that you
are an alumnus, if male, or an alumna, if female. No matter how many split personalities you
may have, sadly, you are not an alumni, which is plural. I suppose if you and your spouse both attended
the school, and you’re both in the car together, then the sign would be
correct. But how often is this the
case? To sport this grossly incorrect
sign discredits your school, no? It
would be like displaying a bumper sticker that says, “I’m a atterney.” Or a librarian saying she works in the lye-berry.
Sign
manufacturers would do well to come up with a frame that simply says “alum,” which
would be singular, and would cover both men and women. Until then, I am keeping my thoughts to
myself. Well, except for blogging about
them. But we’re civilized folks, most
of us, and it’s ill-mannered to correct people with poor grammar in any
regard. So if someone asks me where my husband is at, I'll just answer them. And maybe I'll add that he's an alumnus of LSU. Or not.
Grammar fanatics, I feel your pain. You need to read my book, Sisters in the Mix, available on Kindle and in paperback at Createspace.com. I think you'll like the main character.
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ReplyDeleteMy sister just sent me this link. Would you believe my absolute pet peeve is this very thing? In fact, I have been mortified to hear my children exclaim - clearly within earshot of any offender ending their sentence in "at" ... "Where's your grammar at?" I'm so thrilled we share the same annoyance, and that I am not the only one to gringe, wince, convulse and then ask, "Where's your grammar AT?" Usually, to myself, however.
ReplyDeleteA kindred spirit-- yay! It's always good to know we're not alone in our fight for better grammar!
DeleteAnd of course as I reread my comment, I *cringed* at my spelling error AND ... "offender" should be "offenders"! OY! Ha ha!
DeleteI get in a hurry on Facebook (and here) sometimes and do the same thing! But as long as we aren't ending our sentences with AT, I say we're okay! :)
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